{"id":342,"date":"2018-11-25T23:14:23","date_gmt":"2018-11-25T20:14:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/?p=342"},"modified":"2018-11-26T16:17:07","modified_gmt":"2018-11-26T13:17:07","slug":"yildizlar-ve-mutlulugum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/2018\/11\/25\/yildizlar-ve-mutlulugum\/","title":{"rendered":"Y\u0131ld\u0131zlar Ve Mutlulu\u011fum"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>O gece o kadar \u00e7ok y\u0131ld\u0131z vard\u0131 ki \u2026 Hi\u00e7 isimlerini bile duymad\u0131\u011f\u0131m y\u0131ld\u0131zlar\u0131 saymaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 Tuncer .\u00a0 Tuncer ben ve Tuncer\u2019in Hakan isimli \u00e7ocukluk arkada\u015f\u0131 denize ku\u015f bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir arsa \u00fczerine in\u015fa edilmi\u015f bir da\u011f evinin avlusundayd\u0131k.\u00a0 Bal\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yemi\u015f, rak\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yudumluyorduk.\u00a0 Tuncer seslendi \u201c\u0130\u015fte orada Samanyolu, buradaki de K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckay\u0131 \u2026.\u201d Ben \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n bir ifadeyle kafam\u0131 g\u00f6ky\u00fcz\u00fcne bir kald\u0131rd\u0131m ki, g\u00f6ky\u00fcz\u00fc adeta parl\u0131yordu daha \u00f6nce b\u00f6yle bir manzarayla hi\u00e7 kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131mdan \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131ktan deh\u015fete d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm.\u00a0 Telefonumla resim \u00e7ekmeye koyuldum hemen ancak, telefonun kameras\u0131 fazla yeterli olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan y\u0131ld\u0131zlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcleyemedim.\u00a0 O an\u0131 Tuncer\u2019in de deyimiyle \u201cbeynime kaz\u0131m\u0131\u015f oldum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Y\u0131ld\u0131zlar sanki biz bakt\u0131k\u00e7a \u00e7o\u011fal\u0131yordu.\u00a0 Y\u0131ld\u0131zlar sanki benim isimlerini ard arda sorup Tuncer\u2019i bunaltmam\u0131 bekliyor, ben sorduk\u00e7a art\u0131yorlard\u0131.\u00a0 Bir yandan da yabani hayvan sesleri \u00fczerinde bulundu\u011fumuz arazide yank\u0131 yap\u0131yor, geceye daha da bir gizem \u00fcrperti kat\u0131yordu.<\/p>\n<p>Bir tiyatro sanat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 olan Tuncer\u2019in tok ve egzotik sesi ve okudu\u011fu Naz\u0131m Hikmet \u015fiirleri geceye ahenk kat\u0131yor, bana ise \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcn geri kalan y\u0131llar\u0131 ve \u00e7evremdeki tats\u0131z tutsuz insanlar aras\u0131nda bar\u0131nabilmem, hayata s\u0131k\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131ya tutunabilmem i\u00e7in huzur ve sab\u0131r veriyor tat kat\u0131yordu adeta.\u00a0 Epeydir y\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fcn g\u00fclmedi\u011fini farkettim, kimsenin sohbetinden zevk alam\u0131yordum, can\u0131m istemiyordu kimseciklerin sohbetini, yapmac\u0131k dostluklar\u0131n\u0131.\u00a0 Ev ile ofis aras\u0131nda mekik dokuyor f\u0131rsat bulduk\u00e7a da k\u0131sa k\u0131sa seyahatlerle vaktimi dolduruyordum Ege taraf\u0131na.\u00a0 ( Ben Ege\u2019ciyimdir, \u0130stanbul\u2019da ya\u015fam\u0131yor olsayd\u0131m san\u0131r\u0131m bir tekne sat\u0131n al\u0131r ve Ege b\u00f6lgesinde ya\u015fard\u0131m \u2026 \ud83d\ude42 )<\/p>\n<div style=\"width: 640px;\" class=\"wp-video\"><!--[if lt IE 9]><script>document.createElement('video');<\/script><![endif]-->\n<video class=\"wp-video-shortcode\" id=\"video-342-1\" width=\"640\" height=\"1136\" preload=\"metadata\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"video\/mp4\" src=\"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/video-1543174320.mp4?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/video-1543174320.mp4\">https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/video-1543174320.mp4<\/a><\/video><\/div>\n<p>Bu videoyu o an \u00e7ekmi\u015ftim.\u00a0 Ses tonumdaki \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k belirtisi yan\u0131nda mutluluk ve sevincimi de duyabilirsiniz\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;\u0130\u015fte&#8221; diyordum, bu an \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcredir s\u00f6ylemedi\u011fim bir s\u00f6zc\u00fc\u011f\u00fc a\u011fz\u0131mdan d\u00f6k\u00fcvermi\u015fti \u201cBen \u00e7ok mutluydum, mutluydum, mutluydum \u2026.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Amcam\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc, ailecek ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z h\u00fcz\u00fcn ve hayat\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi olan kan kanseri , babamdan bile ya\u015f\u00e7a k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck olan amcam\u0131 ans\u0131z\u0131n, vakitsiz, amans\u0131z \u00e7ok \u00e7irkin ve ac\u0131mas\u0131z bir \u015fekilde kara toprak haline getirip bizleri kanser kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u00e7aresiz b\u0131rakabiliyordu; hayattan so\u011futabiliyor, ailecek muhabbetimizi kesebiliyordu.\u00a0 Beni ise, 2. roman\u0131m\u0131 bile yazamayacak kadar depresif hale getirebiliyordu\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Kanser gibi bir illet kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda benimki gibi doktorlarla dolup ta\u015fan bir ailede bile derman bulunam\u0131yordu.\u00a0 Benden 2 sefer yap\u0131lan ilik nakli amcam Erkin\u2019in \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fc sadece birka\u00e7 ay uzatabilmi\u015f ancak kendisine tamamen derman olamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 . Erkin\u2019in \u00f6l\u00fcm haberi ailede herkesi \u00e7ok \u00fczm\u00fc\u015f ancak beni bir o kadar\u00a0 da yaralam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.\u00a0 \u00a0Erkin bana k\u0131rg\u0131n \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.\u00a0 Onun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc beni bitirmi\u015fti, aile ba\u011flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da yaralam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 \u2026. Ama art\u0131k t\u00fcm bu olumsuz duygular, kendimi su\u00e7lad\u0131\u011f\u0131m duygular son bulmal\u0131yd\u0131 \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc y\u0131ld\u0131zlar beni o gece yeniden diriltmeye ruhuma \u0131\u015f\u0131k vermeye gelmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n<p>Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck anda, sadece y\u0131ld\u0131zlar, Tuncer ve\u00a0 ayaklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n alt\u0131nda dolanan\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0(Tuncerle &#8220;Arsiz&#8221; ismini verdi\u011fimiz) kedimiz bir tek bunlar laz\u0131md\u0131 beni ve bizi mutlu edebilmek, s\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f ruhumuzu yeniden ayd\u0131nlatabilmek i\u00e7in &#8230;O an sanki t\u00fcm o \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerimi mutsuzluk ve orta ya\u015f krizimi alt etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rcas\u0131na bask\u0131n oluyordu, olabiliyordu\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Ben de o ana tutundum i\u015fte, o an\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131mdan beri beni hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin ve kimsenin mutsuz etmesine izin vermeden ya\u015f\u0131yorum \u2026 Kimseye \u201ceyvallah\u201d demiyorum.\u00a0 34 ya\u015f\u0131mda olmama ra\u011fmen\u00a0 belki de \u00f6mr\u00fcmde ilk defa bu kadar \u00e7ok egosentrik olabiliyor ve kendimce ya\u015f\u0131yorum; art\u0131k mutlu olmaya daha \u00e7ok \u00f6zen g\u00f6steriyor, kendimi oldu\u011fum gibi kabul edip kendimi her zamankinden daha \u00e7ok sevmeye gayret ediyorum.\u00a0 Beni de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131 hayat\u0131mdan def edebiliyorum.\u00a0 Neden mi? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, hayat \u00e7ok k\u0131sa ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131 i\u00e7in ya\u015famak i\u00e7in yeteri kadar c\u00f6mert de\u011fil ve de de\u011fmez.\u00a0 Zaman ak\u0131yor ve ne zaman \u00f6lece\u011fimiz belli bile de\u011fil \u2026. Daha kaliteli ya\u015fayabilmek i\u00e7in hayattan edindi\u011fim tecr\u00fcbelerime istinaden, \u00e7evrenizdeki \u00f6m\u00fcr t\u00f6rp\u00fcs\u00fc insanlardan ve sizin \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc t\u00f6rp\u00fcleyen insanlardan uzak durun !<\/p>\n<p>Tuncer gibi insanlar \u00e7evremde \u00e7ok olabilse, ayna g\u00f6revi g\u00f6rse hastal\u0131km\u0131\u015f, \u00f6l\u00fcmm\u00fc\u015f ba\u015fka sorunlarm\u0131\u015f hepsini alt etmek daha kolay olur, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc m\u00fchim olan \u201cenerji\u201ddir \u00f6yle de\u011fil mi?<\/p>\n<p>\u0130nsanlar aras\u0131ndaki ileti\u015fimi diri tutan, tutabilen \u201ckimya\u201dd\u0131r ; ne aile ba\u011flar\u0131 ne de g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek zorunda oldu\u011funu bildi\u011fin insanlarla ili\u015fkilerindir; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hepsi bir yerde t\u0131kan\u0131yor, mecburiyetler bir yere kadar m\u00fchim olan g\u00f6n\u00fcl s\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131, ho\u015f ve candan duygular.\u00a0Gerekirse kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 an\u0131rarak a\u011flayabilmek..\u00a0 Benim Tuncer\u2019in kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda salya s\u00fcm\u00fck a\u011flayabildi\u011fim gibi \u2026 Kahkahalar\u0131m da cabas\u0131, duygu mozai\u011fi .. Nice \u00f6l\u00fcmlerde insanlar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnden bir damla ya\u015f bile gelmedi\u011fi h\u00fcz\u00fcnlerini payla\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131 sevimsiz ve samimiyetsiz ortamlar olabiliyor bu ortamlar suni ortam &#8230; Hi\u00e7 bir \u015feyini payla\u015famazs\u0131n bu tarz insanlarla sadece ele\u015ftirirler ve moralini bozup kendi kendilerine mutlu olurlar &#8230; Bu tarz insanlarla aran\u0131za mesafe koyun derhal .. Uzun ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ya\u015fayabilmek i\u00e7in \u00e7evrenizde az ve \u00f6z insanlar bulundurun.\u00a0 Yapmac\u0131kl\u0131ktan uzak durun, durabilin &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Kar\u015f\u0131ndaki insan\u0131n seni oldu\u011fun gibi kabul etmesi, yarg\u0131lamadan, severek, tutku ve a\u015fkla sana ba\u011fl\u0131 kalabildi\u011fi \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde enerji al\u0131yorsun ve ayakta durabiliyorsun \u2026 \u0130\u015fte \u201cdo\u011fru insan do\u011fru adam\u201d laf\u0131 da bu noktada \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor olsa gerek \u2026..<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7al\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve mesai saatlerim d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki her an\u0131, Tuncer\u2019in de i\u00e7inde yer ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir arkada\u015f grubumla ge\u00e7irebilirim.\u00a0 Bir \u015fart\u0131m var ama; \u00a0sadece y\u0131ld\u0131zlar\u0131 sayaca\u011f\u0131z ve Tuncer&#8217;cim bize o seksi sesiyle \u015fiir okuyacak ney \u00e7alacak, Naz\u0131m Hikmeti ve sanat\u0131 konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131z; ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k, hastal\u0131k, \u00f6l\u00fcm, keder bize hi\u00e7 u\u011framayacak ve bizim gelecek hayallerimizi bozamayacak t\u00fcm elem, insanlar, huzursuzluk ve keder bizden uzak kalacak \u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Sevgili okuyucular\u0131m, s\u00f6z veriyorum yazmay\u0131 hi\u00e7 b\u0131rakmayaca\u011f\u0131m \u2026 Her hafta 1 hayata dair ve 1 hukuk alan\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m konularla ilgili blogumdan takip edebilirsiniz\u2026.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/ben-ve-kahve.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-344\" src=\"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/ben-ve-kahve.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"720\" height=\"960\" srcset=\"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/ben-ve-kahve.jpg 720w, https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/ben-ve-kahve-225x300.jpg 225w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zdemir Asaf diyor ki: &#8220;Adinin \u00fcst\u00fcne anilar koyma sen mezar degilsin; anilar adinin ardindan gelsin sen duvar degilsin &#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Sevgilerimle<\/p>\n<p>Avukat \/ Arabulucu Gizem Tan<\/p>\n<p>www.dgtanhukuk.com<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>[huge_it_share]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>O gece o kadar \u00e7ok y\u0131ld\u0131z vard\u0131 ki \u2026 Hi\u00e7 isimlerini bile duymad\u0131\u011f\u0131m y\u0131ld\u0131zlar\u0131 saymaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 Tuncer .\u00a0 Tuncer ben ve Tuncer\u2019in Hakan isimli \u00e7ocukluk arkada\u015f\u0131 denize ku\u015f bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir arsa \u00fczerine in\u015fa edilmi\u015f bir da\u011f evinin avlusundayd\u0131k.\u00a0 Bal\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yemi\u015f, rak\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yudumluyorduk.\u00a0 Tuncer seslendi \u201c\u0130\u015fte orada Samanyolu, buradaki de K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckay\u0131 \u2026.\u201d Ben \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n bir ifadeyle [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-342","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-makaleler"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/342","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=342"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/342\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":357,"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/342\/revisions\/357"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=342"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=342"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dgtanhukuk.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=342"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}